How To Write Wedding Vows
Writing the perfect wedding vows can be challenging. This article helps you come up with your own unique idea for those all-too-important vows that capture what you are trying to say but also convey your unique personality and style.
The set up:
Set up the right environment to write vows and to help the idea flow a little easier, consider propping up pictures of you and your fiancé from throughout the years to inspire an opening line. If you have a box or folder of special items such as comicon tickets from your first date or a cute note they wrote you when you were first falling in love, you can use those for inspiration.. Prop up your favorite Harry Potter or A Court of Thorns and Roses books for inspiration along with any other books or fantasy world things you like to get the ideas rolling.I know thinking about the love Rhysand has for Feyre gets me in my feels. Incorporate your favorite lines from movies, books, or musicals.
Still feeling stuck? Research is the answer!
There are SO many types of vows out there that a great place to start to even see what you both might be into is to read examples. If you are religious you can start by looking at traditional vows from your religion or religions to see what is written there and what you’d like to incorporate from those into your own. If you are not religious you can look at examples that are more meaningful to you while incorporating your inner geek.
Here are a few questions you could ask yourself:
What do you love about this person?
When did you realize you were in love?
What do you miss when you’re not around each other?
How does this person make you better?
How do they inspire you?
What are your hopes for the future?
Write down goals and dreams you have together, as well as what makes your relationship unique and special.
Remember that vows are a promise and a promise is a promise, whether it's a wedding vow or the promise of forever. Be sure that your wedding vows are just as strong and meaningful as you have always imagined them to be and a good rule is to not make promises you can’t keep. You'll never be perfect and that’s ok!. What you can do instead, is promise to work on being a better version of yourself in the area of your greatest strength. Don't promise to do things that you can't do or won't bother doing, but focus on the things that are genuine, important and meaningful for your relationship.
Idea Dump:
Jotting down all of your ideas can help make it easier to get your thoughts together and find a theme that works with the stories in your mind.
A few other things you could include:
You’re going to need your partner by your side, even throughout the toughest times. That’s why it’s important that you mention that you’ll be there for each other when things aren’t easy. Remember that love is a journey for anyone who is hoping that their love will grow and continue to grow.
Last but not least, the presentation of vows:
When you say your vows, do it with your whole heart and soul. It doesn't matter if you stumble through your words, or if you cry, or if you forget something. Do the best you can! While this is an important part of your wedding day and should be given ample time and thought, you don't want to let it get in the way of actually getting married.